I've been having arguments with a friend as of late; being of the perfectionist kind she won't allow any kind of mistakes on her art. Usually spending 8+ hours per drawing and sometimes finding herself stuck trying a pose over and over again, then spending time shading and then coloring...
All this just shows how much she cares about the stuff she does and how much it hurts to her to have mistakes on it.
So when it comes to point them out I don't know what to do.
On one hand I would like to see her improving. She's been doing the same mistakes for a long time and if it weren't for construction/anatomy flaws, I really think her drawings could get to another level.
On the other hand she's my friend and I fear hurting her. She takes all this personally as art is the only things she says not to fail at (she's had plenty of frustrations and letdowns from her family, work and friends); and she goes into self-destruct mode whenever I critique her; she starts ranting on her art being shit, lifeless, blocky,... and then she won't draw anymore in a long while.
I try to convince her that she's actually worth something, but that she's not perfect and that she can't be. That she lacks what others have, but that she's got her own potential to develop and that she can't give up on that.
And that she has to draw more for fun. The perfectionist attitude is hurting her more than making any good, and pulling her back when she could be trying new things.
I want to help her but she won't let herself be helped, and I don't know if I should keep pushing or leave it.