I'm not a woman either...but I sure LIKE'EM! (I didn't get that either...)
Trial and error is not the way to go about it either - observation, study, finding examples in other artist's work that appeals to you, etc. Color is a personal thing, much more so than value - value is an objective property while color is subjective and personal (which is why so much more is written regarding color theory and systems). In the end color is very maleable - but you need to observe and understand it to a certain degree before you can be expressive with it.
Edit: Cross post - yeah, it is a good discussion, and always of interest.